- Helping Children When a Family Member Has Cancer: Dealing With Treatment
- How much should I tell my children about my treatment?
- What if my child starts acting differently after I start treatment?
- How can relatives and friends help my children?
- Should the child visit the hospital or clinic?
- What should I tell my child’s school about my illness?
- What if people ask my child about the cancer?
- How do families deal with the uncertainty of not knowing if treatment has worked?
- Cancer changes everyone in the family.
- What helps, by age of the child:
- Words to describe cancer and its treatment
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More information from your American Cancer Society
We have selected some related information that may also be helpful to you. These materials may be ordered from our toll-free number, 1-800-227-2345, or read online at www.cancer.org.
Dealing with cancer and its effects
After Diagnosis: A Guide for Patients and Families (also in Spanish)
Coping With Cancer in Everyday Life (also in Spanish)
Anxiety, Fear, and Depression (also in Spanish)
More on helping children with cancer in the family
It Helps to Have Friends When Mom or Dad Has Cancer (booklet for elementary school children)
Helping Children When a Family Member Has Cancer: Dealing With Diagnosis (also in Spanish)
Cancer treatment information
Understanding Chemotherapy: A Guide for Patients and Families (also in Spanish)
Understanding Radiation Therapy: A Guide for Patients and Families (also in Spanish)
Understanding Cancer Surgery: A Guide for Patients and Families (also in Spanish)
Books from your American Cancer Society
The following books are available from the American Cancer Society. Call us to ask about costs or to place your order. The books for children are intended to be read to and discussed with the younger children in the age range.
Cancer in the Family: Helping Children Cope With a Parent’s Illness (for adults)
Let My Colors Out (best for ages 4 to 8)
Angels & Monsters: A child’s eye view of cancer (for adults)
Because...Someone I Love Has Cancer: Kids’ Activity Book (best for ages 5 to 10)
Mom and the Polka-Dot Boo-Boo (about breast cancer, best for ages 2 to 5)
Nana, What’s Cancer (best for ages 5 to 12)
Our Mom Has Cancer (best for ages 5 to 12)
Our Dad is Getting Better (best for ages 5 to 12)
Our Mom is Getting Better (best for ages 5 to 12)
Couples Confronting Cancer: Keeping your Relationship Strong (for adults)
American Cancer Society Complete Guide to Family Caregiving, 2nd Ed. (for adults)
National organizations and Web sites*
Cancer Really Sucks
Web site: www.cancerreallysucks.org
An internet-only resource designed for teens by teens who have loved ones facing cancer
Cancercare for Kids
Toll-free number: 1-800-813-4673
Web site: www.cancercareforkids.org
Online support program for teens with a parent, sibling, or other family member who has cancer. The toll-free number is for anyone who has cancer or who has a loved one with cancer.
Web site: www.kidscope.org
Has special online materials, including a virtual comic book for children about chemotherapy (Kemo Shark) and a video for kids about a mom with breast cancer
Toll-free number: 1-800-899-2866 (If you get voicemail, leave a message to get a call back)
Web site: www.kidskonnected.org
For children and teens who have a parent with cancer and for those who have lost a parent to cancer
National Cancer Institute
Toll-free number: 1-800-422-6237
Web site: www.cancer.gov
To learn more about cancer or to get special information for teens; you can call to order a special booklet for teens whose parents have cancer or read it online at: www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/when-your-parent-has-cancer-guide-for-teens
Books for adults
Can I Still Kiss You? Answering Your Children’s Questions About Cancer by Neil Russell. Published by HCI, 2001.
Helping Your Children Cope With Your Cancer: A Guide for Parents, 2nd Ed. by Peter Van Dernoot and Madelyn Case. Published by Hatherleigh Press. 2006.
How to Help Children Through a Parent’s Serious Illness, 2nd Ed. by Kathleen McCue and Ron Bonn. Published by St. Martin’s Griffin, 2011.
Life and Loss: A Guide to Help Grieving Children by Linda Goldman. Published by Taylor and Francis Group, 2nd Edition, 1999.
When a Parent Has Cancer: A Guide to Caring for Your Children by Wendy S. Harpham. Published by William Morrow Paperbacks, 2004
Books and other publications for children and teens
Although these books are intended for children, younger kids are helped more when an adult reads with and helps the child reflect about what different parts of the book mean to the child.
Becky and the Worry Cup, by Wendy Harpham. Published by William Morrow Paperbacks, 2004. Best for ages 5 to 10. (Sold with When a Parent Has Cancer, by the same author.)
In Mommy’s Garden: A Book to Help Explain Cancer to Young Children by Neyal J. Ammary. Published by Canyon Beach Visual Communications, 2004. Best for very young children. Also available in Spanish.
Lost and Found: A Kid’s Book for Living Through Loss by Marc Gellman and Debbie Tilley. Published by HarperCollins, 1999. Best for ages 9 to 12.
Sammy’s Mommy Has Cancer (Books to Help Children) by Sherry Kohlenberg. Published by Gareth Stevens Publishers, 1994, Best for ages 4 to 9.
The Paper Chain by Claire Blake, Eliza Blanchard, and Kathy Parkinson. Published by Health Press, 1998. Best for ages 4 to 9.
The Year My Mother Was Bald by Ann Speltz and Kate Sternberg. Published by Magination Press. 2003. Best for ages 9 to 12.
Tickles Tabitha’s Cancer-Tankerous Mommy by Amelia Frahm. Published by Hutchinson, Nutcracker Publishing Company, 2001. Best for ages 4 to 7.
Vanishing Cookies: Doing OK When a Parent Has Cancer by Michelle B. Goodman. Published by Michelle B. Goodman, 1991. Best for ages 9 to 12. (Check libraries and treatment center reading rooms; it can be hard to find a copy for sale.)
Videos for children and adults
We Can Cope: Helping Parents Help Children When a Parent Has Cancer. DVD has sections for teens, younger children, and parents, as well as a guidebook on how to use it. Check your cancer treatment center library or call Inflexxion at 1-800-848-3895 extension 5 to find out how to buy it. (cost: $99.95)
No matter who you are, we can help. Contact us anytime, day or night, for information and support. Call us at 1-800-227-2345 or visit www.cancer.org.
Last Medical Review: 08/07/2012
Last Revised: 08/07/2012