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You need to know that it may not be enough to just tell your family what your wishes are for your medical care. You can choose the kind of treatment you get and refuse any treatment that you do not want. If you have not already made a decision about your health care at the end of your life, now is the time to do so.
An advance directive puts your decisions about future health care in writing. You can also use it to name a surrogate (a substitute, also called a proxy or agent) to act on your behalf when you cannot act for yourself. Advance directives are legal documents that clearly state your wishes about who will make your medical decisions and may even give specific details about how you would like to die. Your doctors will follow your advance directive if you become unable to express your desires as your illness progresses, but they must know about those wishes and have copies of your directive. Having an advanced directive helps take the burden off your family members and health care team. It also helps to ensure that you will get what you want up until the very end of your life.
Advance directives can only be used for decisions about medical care. Other people cannot use them to control your property or money. Advance directives take effect only when you are unable to make your own decisions. Make copies of your advance directives and give copies to all of your health caregivers. Talk to your family about your wishes so they clearly understand what you want. Be sure your closest family members know where to find a copy of your advance directive.
You can get more information in our document, Advance Directives. It can be ordered from our toll-free number or found on our Web site. Here is a brief description of the most common types of advance directives:
Durable power of attorney for health care
A durable power of attorney for health care (or DPOA) can also be called a medical power of attorney, a health care proxy, or an appointment of a health care agent.
A DPOA for health care is a written legal document in which you name someone who will make medical decisions for you if you become too ill to make decisions yourself. This person will talk to the doctors and health care team on your behalf and make decisions according to your directions if you become unable to do so. In a DPOA for health care, you can note the specific kinds of treatment or procedures you do or do not want. If your wishes are not known, the person you appoint will make those decisions for you based on what they think you would want. So, you need to let that person know what you have in mind, and what you do and don't want. Make sure that the person you choose understands your wishes, and that you feel certain that they can carry them out. And, be sure that your other family members know who you have appointed as your decision-maker.
The other main type of advance directive is a living will. This document also gives you the power to make sure your wishes are followed if you become too ill to make decisions for yourself. The living will gives directions about the use of certain medical treatments at the very end of life. For example, you may state that you do not want a feeding tube or intravenous (IV) fluids at the end of your life. You may also decide you do not wish to receive CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) if your heart stops or to be put on a breathing machine (called a ventilator) if you stop breathing on your own. This is something you should discuss with your family and health care team ahead of time, but it is even better to have it all in writing as well. Having these issues clearly resolved to your satisfaction will give you and your family peace of mind.
Do Not Attempt Resuscitation and non-hospital Do Not Resuscitate orders
Some states have a special advance directive called a Do Not Attempt Resuscitation (DNAR) or Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order for use outside the hospital. The non-hospital DNR is intended for emergency medical service (EMS) teams, who answer 911 calls and in most cases must give you every possible life-sustaining service. Even though families expecting a death are advised to call other sources for help when the patient gets worse, a moment of uncertainty sometimes results in a 911 call and unwanted measures that prolong death. The non-hospital DNR or DNAR order offers a way for patients to refuse the full resuscitation effort even if the EMS is called. It must be signed by both the patient and the doctor.
If you are in the hospital, you can ask your doctor to add a DNR or DNAR order to your medical record. But an in-patient DNR order is only good while you are in the hospital, and some hospitals may require a new form be signed each time you are admitted -- even to the same hospital.
Organ and tissue donation
Some people are interested in donating organs. Even though you have cancer, you still may have some options of donating either your corneas (from your eyes) or your entire body for medical research. If you would like your body to benefit someone or some cause after your death ask your doctor about these options.
Organ and tissue donation instructions can be included in your advance directive document. Many states also have organ donor cards or add notations to your driver's license. Be sure that your family and those close to you know your wishes about this too.
Letter of instructions
Although this is not a legal document, it can be very helpful. This letter can be a guide for your family to help them make decisions at the end of your life and after you are gone.
In the instructions, you can name who you want to take in and look after your children or pets. This is useful if the guardian you have named in your will lives out of state. You may also list names and phone numbers of those who should be contacted right after your death. This could include relatives, your lawyer, your financial advisor, the human resources manager at your former job, your insurance agent, or whomever else you think might be important at this time.
You should list the location of important papers and bank and investment accounts. Note also the person who should contact these organizations. You can also leave instructions about the kind of funeral or memorial service you would like.
Copies of instructions should be given to the executor of your will, trusted family members, or other loved ones. Be sure to talk with the people who will need to carry out these instructions. Be sure they are willing to do so and see if they have any questions about your wishes.
All of these documents should be kept in a safe place in your home. You can store an original in a safe deposit box if you want, but copies should be given to close family members, members of your health care team, and your lawyer. It is important to make sure more than one person knows where these documents are and be able to get to them quickly. It's also important to tell your health care team what the documents say when and if the need arises. If your wishes have changed since you last set up such a document, be sure that old copies are destroyed and that your loved ones know where your new documents are.
Last Medical Review: 05/02/2011
Last Revised: 05/02/2011