Dealing with short-term problems

As men age or go through health changes, it is common that feelings of sexual excitement no longer lead to an instant erection. You may just need more time and stroking to get aroused.

If you have trouble reaching orgasm during sex, you may not have found the right kind of touching. You might even think about buying a hand-held electric vibrator. A vibrator can give very intense stimulation. Try having a sexual fantasy or looking at erotic stories or pictures. The more excited you are, the easier it is to reach orgasm.

A number of men have their first orgasm after cancer treatment while asleep, during a sexual dream. If this happens to you, it is proof that you are physically able to have an orgasm. Because sleep erections aren’t affected by mood or state of mind, they give you an idea of the best erection your body can produce. Now it is up to you to set things in motion when you are awake.