Sexuality for the Man With Cancer

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Is there a way to make orgasms as intense as they used to be?

Some men treated for cancer notice that their orgasms become weaker or last a shorter time than before. Sometimes, a mildly weaker orgasm is just part of normal aging. As men age, the muscle contractions at climax are no longer as strong. More severe weakening of orgasm often goes along with erection problems. In these cases, treating the erection problem may not improve a man’s orgasms. Men who have dry orgasms after cancer treatment also say they sometimes have reduced sensation.

Few medicines can make a man’s climax stronger. Most of these medicines have dangerous side effects or could stop working after a few doses. Some common-sense advice is to make sure you are as excited as possible during sex. Focus on your feelings of pleasure or on an arousing fantasy and take a long time for foreplay. If you find yourself getting close to orgasm, ask your partner to tease you a little by slowing down the caresses. Let your excitement die down and rebuild several times before you actually climax.

You can practice this teasing technique during your own self-stimulation, too. When you feel your excitement is high, stop touching your penis, even if you lose part of your erection. Then caress yourself again, stopping and starting several times before you ejaculate. Whether by yourself or with a partner, make sure your erection is as full as can be before you use the strong, rhythmic caresses that bring on your orgasm. Some men learn to ejaculate with a soft penis. But many find they have stronger orgasms if they can delay orgasm until their erection is as firm as possible.


Last Medical Review: 08/19/2013
Last Revised: 08/19/2013